In this world filled with noises and lights and stress and unwarranted violence, it’s pretty easy to lose track of yourself—your passion, hobbies, wants, and needs.
Many people consider themselves adept at handling these kinds of things, juggling one task with ten more other tasks, all at the same time. What they do not realize (or they do, they just don’t care that much) is that they are sacrificing one thing in return—their own sense of self.
So basically I’m saying quit doing this things and focus on your self? Not quite.
You see, it’s much more complicated than that simple answer. Yes of course, you can just drop everything and live like a nomad, but that’s just plain selfish. There are people, whether you’re aware or not, who depend on you. Just dropping them down all of a sudden isn’t exactly what I want you to do.
So, what am I exactly saying?
All I’m saying is for you to drop the guns once in a while and give yourself some slack. Not just any slack. I’m talking about the productive slack.
How can you do something while doing nothing at all? Simple. You find what you’ve always wanted to do, or something you once did but couldn’t now, and do it.
Productivity isn’t just done by working. It can also be done while relaxing. It’s actually much better when you’re doing it for relaxation because your creative side starts doing what it wants to do.
At the end of the day, nobody else will matter to you more than yourself.
Okay, it sounds simpler than it actually is. For one thing, work and other priorities jostle each other for your attention. This is especially true for students (*cough* hell week *cough*). But it’s also pretty common with adults. That ultra-mega-hyper-super-BIG report due by next week is definitely much more important than waddling in a spa right now.
So what are you supposed to do? I’m listing down several things for allowing the little kid in you to come out and play.
- Settle your important priorities first. Like what I’ve mentioned earlier, you just can’t head to the beaches now when you have something important to submit tomorrow. Settle your significant priorities now before you indulge yourself. Doing that can save you your work and your conscience.
- Do it for yourself. No, just because your friends or your [toxic and manipulative] boyfriend/girlfriend wants you to try it doesn’t mean you’re obligated to do it. Write because you want to. Paint because you want to. Travel because you want to. No one (I repeat, no one) should interfere with your thinking and influence you to do something you don’t want to do. Do it for yourself.
- Productive doesn’t necessarily mean good. Err on the side of caution. If you have a weak heart and you’ve been dying (no pun intended) to try bungee jumping or skydiving, don’t do it. Not because I’m killjoy or superstitious, but because you need to live through it. Of course it’s productive. You get to add one more experience-filled event in your journal, but it just might be your last. Always err on the side of caution.
- Let your inner child guide your decisions. It only appears whenever you’re relaxed or in a good mood. Your inner child knows you more than any other human, and it is one of the best indicators of your likes and dislikes. Allowing it to decide for itself what it wants is going to make you more fulfilled than if anyone suggested it to you. But always maintain a close eye on its decisions or else it will run rampant.
You are, after all, your greatest priority. At the end of the day, nobody else will matter to you more than yourself. So I leave this one question to you: Is your inner child happy or not?